Pain and fear are not the only methods of growth; you can more elegantly grow through joy and love ~Lazaris


It’s fairly easy for me to remember personal experiences when something good came out of something bad. It’s probably not difficult for you to recall some examples either. My failed relationships taught me about unfulfilled needs, my dull jobs pointed me to follow my inner passion and many of my wrong choices led me to take responsibility. And whatever that bad thing was, I often ended up coming out stronger. But it’s a lot hard to remember learning a lesson from a joyful, encouraging moment. Indeed, there are limited examples for that one. And this may be owing to the lack of positive-reinforcement in my life, and I would go as far to say in our society. The truth is we all want good, affirmative experiences, but unfortunately we tend to focus on the negatives. It’s not all that surprising though, because our world zooms in on the negative: the media, quite a few teachers, the finger wagging boss and at times even our parents. It’s a belief. Our society believes that lessons need to be learned from bad actions and bad behavior. That’s just the way it is. It’s a shame nontheless, that we don't believe more in the power of positivity.